Facing the Past to Heal the Future
I’ve been thinking about how much I let my past mistakes and
old wounds decide what I do now and how I feel about my future. It’s human
nature to learn from our mistakes and use caution the next time we’re faced
with similar problems; but what happens when we dwell on those personal
poltergeists enough to stagnate ourselves in the present?
This particular grouping of fears has provided me mental
blocks to things like leaving the house or having any kind of hope for a
productive and successful future. All I see in my past is financial
irresponsibility and insecurity, as well as a series of situations that marked
the black stain of bad luck on every corner of my life. Any time I look toward
my future, I see a struggle for success against the odds of who I really am: a
perpetual failure, flake, and emotional hermit. And it’s really hard to get past
that negativity to a place of reinvention and courageous positivity.
I tend to go through a mental cycle on this front: getting
sick of my negativity and stagnation to the point of getting up and doing small
things to help myself out (working out, finishing schoolwork or a book, getting
out in nature, cleaning the house), and then I start getting confident and
planning a bit bigger (future herbal career, where to settle down, budget for
future income to reach these goals), and then some catalyst implodes my
confidence and faith in myself, so I lay down on my bed for a couple of weeks
and do nothing out of fear of fucking up. And the wheel keeps spinning.
While I find myself aware of this cycle, even now I have a
hard time getting my head around how to break that wheel (in the spirit of
Daenerys Targaryen) and move forward with the confidence that I can overcome my
past and become at least a part of the person I’d like to become. It may be
because this cycle has become too familiar, too comfortable. I know what
happens next in this cycle; whereas, once I’ve broken the cycle, who knows what
happens next. And maybe it’s fear of the unknown that keeps me looking back
enough that I let those fears rule my present. Maybe I shouldn’t be trying to
learn from my past mistakes; rather, I should remain aware of them but also
look forward to making future mistakes in order to further my education in life—find
new perspectives and shatter those like the ones I’ve shattered in my past.
As Awolnation said it in Kill Your Heroes: never let your
fear decide your fate. It’s a fervent hope of mine that I won’t allow my past
to rule my future, because what’s the point in living if all I’m experiencing
is reruns? I figure life’s too short to live in a constant state of paranoia
and avoidance. There comes a time to stop licking the wounds so they can heal
and more wounds can be made and learned through; and now is that time.
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